Luck?

Many people tell me how lucky I am. And actually they're correct, but not for the reasons they think!!

I'm not lucky to have a wonderful, loving and devoted husband who is also my bestest best friend.  We have done our hard yards.  When others may have given up and walked away, we both decided to swallow our pride and change ourselves for the better instead. And to work hard (I mean work DAMN hard) to build this amazing relationship we have today. And we keep working on it too. No luck there.

I'm not lucky to have a reasonably well adjusted, easy going, respectful and happy son.  It's been hard work raising him to understand manners, generosity and friendship. I'm not his best friend (although we are great friends) - I'm his mother. I set the rules and enforce them, I don't try to curry favour by giving in to his demands or try to buy his affection. He's happy and healthy and I have worked damn hard to make it so. Again there's no luck there, just more hard work.

I'm not lucky to live on a rural property just outside of Hobart with the most spectacular views of rolling hillsides and Mt Wellington in the background. We made some extremely hard choices to get here and have done lots of hard work (with much more still to come) to make it a reality. We have given up our comfortable home and networks in Perth for the unknown over here. We have jumped in feet first with no farming experience at all and are learning what we need to know very quickly as each new crisis hits. Not lucky or easy!!!

And I am most certainly not lucky to have survived breast cancer. The past 2 years were the hardest I have ever experienced.  I fought to survive. I did have great specialists (I hope) dishing out my treatments but it was pure will power and determination (and my amazing husband) that got me through them. I guess sometimes it pays to be stubborn.  Recovering from the cure was the hardest thing I have ever had to endure.  No luck there, just grit and determination.

I don't attribute any of those things to luck. All required concerted effort, sacrifice and in some cases huge mental shifts to make them happen. In most cases a goodly dose of courage too.

Where I do consider myself extremely lucky is that I have managed to learn the lessons I needed for each challenge in time to prevail. Perhaps The Universe dished out my lessons in a particular order for a reason, or maybe it was just blind luck. But when each challenge landed at my feet I somehow had the tools I needed to get through.

Perhaps The Universe had something to do with this too, but hand in hand with every challenge the most amazing and dedicated people have come into my life to support and guide me. And I am truly lucky that each and every one of them has remained in my life after the crisis has passed.

I am indeed lucky and blessed.